Sleep
As adults, we know that sleep is pretty amazing, right? Probably every parent has told their kid, "If I could go back and nap every day, I would!" So why do some children fight sleep? Because kids like to be in control and kids like to learn, explore, and practice. So, to let their bodies and minds rest and fully relax, that can be a challenge--they have to give up control. There are some things we can do to help this process. But first, why is sleep so important?
Our bodies do so much during sleep! Here are some of the benefits:
Reduce stress--Support organ health--Maintain a healthy weight--Fight germs--Make learning easier
- Most children will spend 40% of their childhood asleep
- A sleep schedule should be established around 7-9 months
- Sleep schedules help to develop circadian rhythms (regular and natural sleep patterns that promote cognitive and motor development)
- To promote healthy development, children need more sleep than adults even through their teenage years
- Understand that experiencing a variety of sleep patterns is very typical in the first 6 months of baby’s life. Even after 7-9 months, they still may experience periods of irregular sleep, especially during growth spurts.
The National Sleep Foundation recommendations of average sleep a day:
Newborns (0 to 3 months): 14 to 17 hours(including naps)
Infants (4 to 11 months): 12 to 15 hours (including naps)
Toddlers (12 to 35 months): 11 to 14 hours (including naps)
Preschoolers (3 to 5 years): 10 to 13 hours
Infants (birth - 1 year)
Infants' internal clocks are not even completely developed yet.
Most of their time is still spent sleeping. In fact, newborns will sleep about 18 hours of the 24 hours in a day. That being said, most professional’s advise parents to wake their baby after 4 hours to feed (until their weight is sustained properly).
Wake times can then be stretched as the infant can go longer between feedings.
It is very important to note, it is perfectly fine and acceptable for babies to wake throughout the night. Babies will most likely let out small fusses and even cries. Try not to rush to baby's side immediately and calm them. These small moments could just be a sleep cycle change. However, if a baby (especially under 6 months) continues to cry, they do most likely need something.
There is also a common separation anxiety between 6-12 months.
The goal in infancy is helping a baby learn to soothe themselves to sleep.
Sleep Tips:
Ensure diaper fits, “flaps” all around the bottom area are pulled out to avoid leaks, & you can even try to size up or use nighttime diaper
Losing the pacifier? Place a couple around the crib so they can find one when they wake up
Lay baby down drowsy but awake
Watch for sleep cues--An over tired baby does not mean more sleep
toddler (1 year - 2 years)
Most toddlers sleep about 12-14 hours in their day.
They can be kept awake from lingering separation anxiety or the simple fact there is so much to learn and they do not want to miss a thing! Because of these sleep challenges, it is very important for adults to help regulate schedules and routines at nap and bed times.
Set a routine and stick to a schedule. The routine must not be too complicated or lengthy. It is also a good idea to avoid screen time or books that could cause the mind to wonder and be scared.
Keeping kids awake later does not in fact make them sleepier at bedtime. Most toddlers still take 1-3 naps--of course, every child is different. If nap times are consistent and are still becoming a fight, the child may just need quiet rest time. This looks like alone time with books, coloring, or other calm, restful activities.
Sleeping through the night still may not be consistent. Causes of the occasional wake up could be: teething, active dreams, nightmares, or other factors. It is okay to comfort them during these times. Talk about what is happening, what they can do about it, and encourage them to go back to sleep.
Preschool (3 years - 5 years)
Preschool children will need to sleep about 10-13 hours a night. They will begin to not need a complete nap time. Again, quiet or rest time is still highly encouraged. Mid day they will benefit from a brain and body break (and you might need this time to recharge, too!). Some children will need bed time routines and times adjusted during this transition as well, as they might get tired a little earlier without a nap.
Bedtime troubles? Its actually pretty common. In fact, many children deal with sleep issues that make it harder for them to fall asleep, stay asleep, or stay awake. Check out some of the tips in the images above.
Bedtime Books
· Unthink before bed: Kelly Croy
· Little Owl’s Night: Divya Srinivasan
· There’s a Monster in Your Book: Giovanna Fletcher
· Mindful Moments at Bedtime: Paloma Rossa
· Night Night Farm: Roger Priddy
· I’ve Loved You Since Forever: Hoda Kotb
· The Going to Bed Book: Sandra Boynton
· Definitely Do Not Open This Book: Andy Lee
· Don’t Let the Pigeon Stay Up Late: Mo Willems
· Where Do Diggers Sleep at Night: Brianna Caplan Sayres
· I’ll See You in the Morning: Mike Jolley
· If Animals Kissed Goodnight: Ann Paul
· A Book of Sleep: Il Sung Na
· How Do Dinosaurs Say Goodnight: Jane Yolen and Mark Teague
· Goodnight Moon: Margaret Wise Brown
Some Facts about Dreams...
Do Babies dream? Yes! Actually, infants dream more in their first few months than they will any other time.
When and what causes dreams? Dreams happen during a phase called REM sleep. REM is Rapid Eye Movement. During this sleep phase, your eyes are moving a lot (hence the name) and your brain is also working similar to being awake. Dreams can happen in other phases of sleep, but are most vivid in REM.
How much time do children spend dreaming? The estimation for newborns is about 40%-70% of their sleep is spent in REM--so an average of 8-11 hours per day is spent in REM for infants. As we get older, our REM sleep does lessen. Children spend about 25%-30% of their sleep in REM, and adults spend 15%-20% of their sleep in this stage.
Is REM sleep good? It is especially good for infants! There are 3 areas studies have shown great benefits of REM sleep: learning and memory, brain development and mood.
Learning and memory: Without proper REM, our memories do not work as well--short or long term. Children, and infants especially, are learning so much every day. Good sleep is necessary for the brain to have time to process it all.
Brain development: Research shows that REM sleep is when neural connections go into overdrive. This means, REM is directly linked and promotes development!
Mood: Coping skills are very important in babies' development and there is believed to be a link between these and REM sleep.